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Parental Neglect Leads to Tragedy | 34 Genesis

In the last chapter Jacob displayed great traits of a true Shepherd by his use of wisdom, humility, and gentleness which enabled him to avoid catastrophe with his long-lost brother Esau and saved his entire family from great harm. But in this chapter, Jacob does not do such a good job shepherding his daughter - Dinah. For whatever reason he neglects his fatherly duties and allows his daughter to get herself into a very vulnerable situation, a situation that no young girl should have to deal with on her own.

Let’s get into the Word:

Genesis 34:1 And Dinah the daughter of Leah, which she bare unto Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land.

Uh, oh. She wants to hang out with those pagan women. Why? No doubt she wants to experience the world, see what’s out there.

Genesis 34:2 And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her.

Now remember, these were the people that the Israelites were not supposed be intermingling with. Think about this, you dads, Jacob allowed his daughter to go into a dangerous place without protection. He allowed her to be by herself around these people, these people he knew worshipped pagan gods and participated in sensual erotic rituals and ceremonies dedicated to their demon gods. Had Jacob protected her from hanging out with these pagan women, these worldly daughters of the land, this whole incident could have been avoided.

It is thought that Dinah was only about 13-15 years old at this time. Partying with the daughters of the land was no place for a young girl like this, much less for a daughter of God. And today, young teens get into a lot of trouble, sometimes get their life ruined, because they are hanging out in places they shouldn’t be, unsupervised, and allowed to be in situations where the temptation to commit fornication is too great for them to handle. Or they end up in a place where there are predators on the prowl.

But then there is the fear of godly parents who say, “Well, I want to protect my children from the world but I don’t want to be overprotective and have them resent me because of it, or turn rebellious.” And that’s a legitimate concern. That can happen, even to the best of parents. However, many times that can be avoided if the child knows you are saying no to something because you love them, not just because you want to set rigid rules. Sure, there could be some rebellious backlash, but in the case of Dinah, what’s worse? Saying no to your daughter and having her be unhappy, or saying yes and having something like this happen to her.

Hey, we live among the Canaanites today. Just look at the pop music industry, it’s filled with sensual pagan sex-worship. Just turn on MTV for two minutes and you’ll see what I’m talking about. If you don’t see it for yourself, you’ve got blinders on. MTV is not an appropriate form of entertainment for 12-15 year old girls or for any child of God for that matter.

Genesis 34:3 And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spake kindly unto the damsel.

Some people believe that Dinah was raped, but this passage seems to suggest that Shechem indeed loved her. We don’t know for sure what happened, but we do know that Shechem was guilty of forcing or persuading Dinah to commit fornication with him. In this sense, Shechem isn’t much different than most young men today. They do not think about the consequences of lust, they are only thinking about the gratification of the flesh.

Had Shechem truly respected and loved Dinah, he would not have defiled her like this. He would have cherished her purity and asked her hand in marriage rather than just taking from her what didn’t lawfully belong to him.

Fornication, sex outside of marriage, can cause a lot of suffering and heartache. We’re going to see an example of that in this chapter. We see it all over our society today. We live in a pagan culture where purity is not valued like it used to be, marriages suffer because of it, and it has had a devasting effect upon our families and our nation.

Now, many of us were raised in this pagan culture and we didn’t take these things seriously, but now that we are Christians, we must take them serious and impart Christian values into our children. It’s not okay for them to do these things just because everyone else is doing them.

Revelation 21:7 He that overcometh shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son.

Revelation 21:8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.

Revelation 22:14 Blessed are they that do his commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city.

Revelation 22:15 For without are dogs, and sorcerers, and whoremongers, and murderers, and idolaters, and whosoever loveth and maketh a lie.

Ephesians 5:1 Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children;

Ephesians 5:2 And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour.

Ephesians 5:3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;

Ephesians 5:4 Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.

Ephesians 5:5 For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.

Ephesians 5:6 Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience.

Ephesians 5:7 Be not ye therefore partakers with them.

Ephesians 5:8 For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light:

Genesis 34:4 And Shechem spake unto his father Hamor, saying, Get me this damsel to wife.

Rich boy Shechem, probably used to getting what he wants. How many parents do this today. Instead of having their children suffer the consequences for their actions, or disciplining them, they give them what they want.

Genesis 34:5 And Jacob heard that he had defiled Dinah his daughter: now his sons were with his cattle in the field: and Jacob held his peace until they were come.

Genesis 34:6 And Hamor the father of Shechem went out unto Jacob to commune with him.

Genesis 34:7 And the sons of Jacob came out of the field when they heard it: and the men were grieved, and they were very wroth, because he had wrought folly in Israel in lying with Jacob's daughter; which thing ought not to be done.

They loved their sister. Think about it. If you grew up in a Christian family would you want some heathen taking advantage of your sister? Would you want your sister hanging out with the “daughters of the land” and participating in sensual erotic sex worship through music and rituals? They have a right to be angry.

Genesis 34:8 And Hamor communed with them, saying, The soul of my son Shechem longeth for your daughter: I pray you give her him to wife.

No sorry for what happened, but at least you could say he is trying to do something to make it right. That doesn’t even happen today. These pagans back then almost appear righteous when comparing them with the generation we live in today.

Genesis 34:9 And make ye marriages with us, and give your daughters unto us, and take our daughters unto you.

Uh, oh. This was not to be done. God did not want his holy people to mix with pagan peoples. They were to remain separate. So here we see Satan working behind the scenes trying to unite God’s people with his people. Not to the benefit of God’s people, but ultimately to destroy them.

Genesis 34:10 And ye shall dwell with us: and the land shall be before you; dwell and trade ye therein, and get you possessions therein.

Let us “co-exist”. Sound familiar?

Genesis 34:11 And Shechem said unto her father and unto her brethren, Let me find grace in your eyes, and what ye shall say unto me I will give.

Genesis 34:12 Ask me never so much dowry and gift, and I will give according as ye shall say unto me: but give me the damsel to wife.

Shechem’s begging Jacob and his sons for Dinah.

Genesis 34:13 And the sons of Jacob answered Shechem and Hamor his father deceitfully, and said, because he had defiled Dinah their sister:

Genesis 34:14 And they said unto them, We cannot do this thing, to give our sister to one that is uncircumcised; for that were a reproach unto us:

In other words, uncircumcised peoples were people not in covenant with God. All pagan peoples were uncircumcised back then.

Genesis 34:15 But in this will we consent unto you: If ye will be as we be, that every male of you be circumcised;

Genesis 34:16 Then will we give our daughters unto you, and we will take your daughters to us, and we will dwell with you, and we will become one people.

Genesis 34:17 But if ye will not hearken unto us, to be circumcised; then will we take our daughter, and we will be gone.

Genesis 34:18 And their words pleased Hamor, and Shechem Hamor's son.

Genesis 34:19 And the young man deferred not to do the thing, because he had delight in Jacob's daughter: and he was more honourable than all the house of his father.

In other words, Shechem agrees. In his mind, this is a small price to pay for what they could potentially gain out of this marriage.

Genesis 34:20 And Hamor and Shechem his son came unto the gate of their city, and communed with the men of their city, saying,

Genesis 34:21 These men are peaceable with us; therefore let them dwell in the land, and trade therein; for the land, behold, it is large enough for them; let us take their daughters to us for wives, and let us give them our daughters.

Genesis 34:22 Only herein will the men consent unto us for to dwell with us, to be one people, if every male among us be circumcised, as they are circumcised.

Genesis 34:23 Shall not their cattle and their substance and every beast of theirs be ours? only let us consent unto them, and they will dwell with us.

Now we see the true intentions of these pagan people. Jacob was a very rich man, if they can marry into his family they can then steal the birthright and blessing that God placed upon him. My friends any deal made with Satan always ends in a loss for us. Satan and his people will always be there tempting us, trying to get us to join them. Whether it be under the guise of co-existence, tolerance, or diversity, whenever we join forces with non-Christian peoples it always leads to the transfer of our blessings to them.

Genesis 34:24 And unto Hamor and unto Shechem his son hearkened all that went out of the gate of his city; and every male was circumcised, all that went out of the gate of his city.

Genesis 34:25 And it came to pass on the third day, when they were sore, that two of the sons of Jacob, Simeon and Levi, Dinah's brethren, took each man his sword, and came upon the city boldly, and slew all the males.

These were Dinah’s full brothers. No doubt they took this a little more personal than the other brothers. Had these Canaanites not been out of commission due to the soreness of being circumcised this would have been a difficult mission for these two brothers to carry out. No doubt they probably had others help them, like servants that belonged to the family.

Genesis 34:26 And they slew Hamor and Shechem his son with the edge of the sword, and took Dinah out of Shechem's house, and went out.

Genesis 34:27 The sons of Jacob came upon the slain, and spoiled the city, because they had defiled their sister.

Genesis 34:28 They took their sheep, and their oxen, and their asses, and that which was in the city, and that which was in the field,

Genesis 34:29 And all their wealth, and all their little ones, and their wives took they captive, and spoiled even all that was in the house.

Genesis 34:30 And Jacob said to Simeon and Levi, Ye have troubled me to make me to stink among the inhabitants of the land, among the Canaanites and the Perizzites: and I being few in number, they shall gather themselves together against me, and slay me; and I shall be destroyed, I and my house.

Genesis 34:31 And they said, Should he deal with our sister as with an harlot?

Now Jacob was upset about how his boys handled this. This was a brutal tactic Simeon and Levi carried out, no question about that. However, this all could have been avoided in the first place had Jacob shepherded his daughter better. Dinah had no business hanging out with those pagan Canaanitish women. Nothing good could have come out of it. Yet Jacob let her go out unprotected anyway.

I guess probably the better response would have been for Jacob to simply say no to Shechem, and just take his daughter back and leave. But then Shechem would’ve gotten away with defiling Israel without any repercussion, and Israel would have looked weak in the sight of the Canaanites.

Jacob’s failure to remedy this situation has led to no easy way out. Let that be a lesson for us today. When we neglect our duties, as leaders, as parents, and as Christians, many times that can have tragic consequences. It’s much easier to face the challenges that come with leadership head on before they spiral out of control into something much more difficult to deal with.
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